Real Sex Education Facts

I have read most of thes comments and have found not many have been the other way round i am 20 goin on 21 man and have started seeing a 31yr young women. and so far great i feel an experriance in life but to complicate things i am also seeing a younger girl my age 19 . I have fallin more for the older lady what should i do.

In all the ways that a couple can be compatible age is pretty low on my list. Relationships involve a lot of pieces, caring about the other person, attraction, time spent together. Maturity level, shared interests and priorities are all important- a lot of love isn’t enough to make up for disconnects in those areas. Still, a significant age gap (generally considered more than 8-10 yrs if both are adults) is going to have issues that other relationships don’t.

The first and only love of my life is 35 years older than me and good for me in every way. I won’t lie and claim that I never wished he was 20, even 10 years younger but I will gladly take the decades I can get. In some ways we are blessed, because we have been made so much stronger by the unconventionality of our relationship, and we never take our time together for granted.

Some helpful quotes, for busybodies:

“I’m sorry you have not meet enough strong women to believe a smart girl like me could have an equal relationship with a successful older man.”

“Thank you for thinking our relationship will last long enough to get to the point where we are concerned about fertility/widowhood/retirement.”

“Is it like being married to your father?” ~ “Your husband is the same age as your brother, is it like being married to your brother?”

I’m 22 and seeing a 51 year old. I’m worried about that he’ll get too old and then one day will die long before me. I wanted to know what other people think, who have a ~30 year difference relationship, on is it worth it or should I let him go??

To all those who are screaming “Pedophilia”; this article is not about having sex with a minor. If that was the first thought that came to your mind then maybe it is you who need to see a ‘head Doctor’. This is an article about people of varied ages having a relationship. If you want to discuss the proper age of consent start your own article. Please don’t criticize others for their relationships just because there is an age difference. If illegality is an issue let the local authorities deal with it. There are too many opinionated people in this world whose opinions are driven by what society has told them. A century ago the marriage of a young lady of 14,15,16,17 years to a man 15 years her senior would not have even turned a head. Even Mary was thought to have only been of age 12 to 15 when she bore Jesus. Come on, if God thought it wise for a girl that young to have a child why should we feel any different. There are countries, not as society driven as the US or other countries, who still maintain the age of consent at 12. Are you going to tell me that everyone in that country is a pedophile because it is allowed? I hope not. Try to think about whether your opinion is really your opinion or society’s opinion before you give it. Well, enough about that.
It is MY opinion that relationships of any age gap are possible. In every relationship someone will mature faster, slow down sooner, get frail earlier, loose their mind first, but you just have to decide early in your relationship that once that ‘loving feeling’ wears off that you are going to choose to continue to support, nurture, be true to, and Love your spouse. Falling in love with someone may not be a choice, but yes, continuing to love is a choice. Just remember, once you’re married never stop dating each other. Good luck to all of you. For the best relationship possible; get to know Jesus Christ as your Savior and then live by his standard and all will be well.

It’s hard to believe that people are so judgmental where age is concerned. But, I suppose it’s like anything else-if it deviates from the norm, a lot of people are threatened by it. As long as two people are of legal age, it should be of no concern to anyone else. When I first started dating my guy, he was 40 and I was 20. You better believe people were gossiping about the two of us. He was concerned about the age difference, but I was not. Never have been. His main concern was about how I would “grow up” and “change” over the years. He didn’t want to infringe on that. I told him “Of course I’m going to change. We will also evolve in our relationship. That‘s what people do. And I fully intend on growing with you”. I knew I had found a wonderful man and that I loved him. A lot of younger women like myself talk about *most* older men being more mature and settled and many have always been attracted to older guys. This would explain my feelings exactly. I don’t relate well to men my age (or younger). Many of my friends are older and it seems like it’s always been that way. My best friend at 13 was a 70-something neighbor of mine. At 15, my best friend was 30. I currently have several friends in their 40’s and a few in their 50’s. I’ve certainly been called an “old soul” before. But, I digress. We will be hitting the 5 year mark this month. And I am still incredibly in love with him, as he is with me. Our relationship only seems to get better-and stronger. We’ve been there for one another through some very rough times-two years ago he buried his father and this past year I had to bury mine. I can’t speak for him, but I know that without him I couldn’t have gotten through that terrible time. I can confidently say that he is the most important person in my life. Anyone who condemns our relationship based on some arbitrary number can take that condemnation shove it where the sun doesn’t shine.

Im dating my man which is 15years diff…wow..its amazing.We both need to go through many thing together but it doesn’t matter at all.Because life’s short you will never know what’s gonna happen tomorrow.So…just LOVE 🙂

I think, the most surprising thing that I have discovered from dating an older man (I’m 26 and he is 60) is how mean people can be to perfect strangers. And its amazing to me that they can feel so justified in their ugly comments. What I really want to know is why the “sugar daddy” stereotype is so prevalent in society — why on earth are some people just pre-programmed to think the worst about a couple with a difference in years? Maybe it’s just the people I know, but out of the many age-gap couples I’ve spoken with online or met in person, money, power, lust doesn’t enter into the equation — love, respect and genuine regard for one another do.

Hello everyone, I hope everyone is great!

Straight to the point.

I am 19 year old guy and my experiences with older women have been great. I’ve dated women much older then me who are 47, 40, 35 and 30. The 47 and the 40 year old women the relationship was like having friends with benefits. It was a relationship basically for sex and also someone to make you feel important.
I was with the 47 year old women for 6 months and then I one I decided stop seeing. Days later I jumped into another friends with benefits/relationship with the 40 year old women.
It only lasted until her 18 year old daughter tried getting involved.
And then I jumped again but this time I moved in with the 30 older women and it became more of a serious relationship.
At the same time I met the 35 year old women and I was cheating with her for 4 months.

Why did I cheat on my girlfriend?

Previous to all of my actions with these women I fell deeply in love with a woman who is 45 it was like magic.
I really never the felt so lucky and so happy from the things she said, her smooth skin, and hearing her laugh covered me with Goosebumps everywhere.
My feelings for her develop fast like a lighting bolt stroke my whole body ten million times.
I didn’t care about what happen in past or what people think and said to me… I love her.
It ended, just like the way it started with a lighting storm. She ended it and just wanted to be friends because she thought she was ripping me off. Things didn’t feel the same after we broke up, but I’m happy that gotten her to believe in love again and that there are nice guys out there.

All the older women I’ve dated theirs something about them that remind me of the first woman I love. Every night when my girlfriend is sleeping. Next to her I cry and s couple tears come down my face and I imagine of finding that pure love.

I am still in love with the 45 older women and been writing poems emailing them everyday for 2 months to her.
She hasn’t gotten back and I’m not really sure what to do but I know I want to be with her and only her.

Does anyone have some advice or options please share me your thoughts.
Thank you

i am 30 years old my girl friend is 18 years old she loves me too much and we love each other and we are happy.

I am 18 and have found my soul mate! hes 30 and the best thing that has ever happened to me! I love him very much! he takes good care of me and my family loves him! ^,^ he helped my mom get my first car for graduation and he said he will support and help me in whatever I chose to do in life! I couldnt be happier! hes sweet, loving protective and damn good looking ^,^ im happy for everyone on this site!

I am 18 years old and have fallen in love with a 38 year old man. We love each other unconditionally. Even though we were born so far apart our whole life has basically been the same and has caused us both such mental problems. So we understand each other. We are so much in love but my family looks down on him because of the age difference. They don’t understand that our love is true and God brought us together. hey don’t understand that we have learned how to love together…
But we are working through everything. And God will work everything out that is meant to happen.

Thank you to you all for your candid personal insights and even to the few hyper judgementalist’s who would rather you be an appropriately allocated portion of life’s portfolio in their 5 year plan than a spirit of heart and romance, for they too have contributed to the sifting out of my emotion and understanding in all of this, would that I should have pursued this enlightenment sooner vs later, but such is life, a process, a work in progress thankfully and a gift in grace and growing vs purely winning or loosing like your love life had no more purpose or value but to be akin to the winning contestant on some trivial game show, ” sorry wrong answere ( read age ) ” you loose!

I have let the stigma of judgmental pragmatisit’s steer my mind and side track my heart. As all is clearer in hind sight, it is easy for me to see now. I am 48 and struggling with dating after the demise of a 13 year marriage five years ago. Struggling in that I turn my mind off to woman I am attracted to who are younger in any notable way ( yes my ex was 9 years younger but not genuinely the true reason, family and friends supported the relationship..etc.. ) . I sabotage my interaction with younger woman I find appealing , even though I have been ‘given a chance’ by more than a few. I dated an older woman + 5 of me and she quipped I should better like some one younger but I never pursued nor desired other than her, she was uncomfortable with me and other issues between us so age was not the only scape goat in this. I completely adored this woman (still do) but she kept me at arms distance even though we were very intimate for nearly 2 years. The point of my sharing this now is to tell my self and the world around me that I won’t ruin nor rule out a love be it older or younger again. Finding a true romance and intimacy is too special and unique to begin with, let alone further make it nearly impossible to discover as you cross people off your heart and mind purely for age. So let all be your own best judge in these matters ( statutory laws not to be treaded on of course, there are those boundaries indeed).

I am 19, and in a year long reaaltionship with a now thirty year old. in all honesty i am the more mature one due to our different raising. in am in love, feel complete w/ her, but not sure what the future holds. she hasnt expressed being comfortable introducing me as a boy friend, or i vise versa. i consider myself well versed in the sexual nature, and although she is gorgous, i find myself not as satisifed, but haved been giving less attention and wieght to sex. i am also getting ready to consider a big college move and not sure what to do. experiance or advice

Hey guys 🙂 I’m 19, going on 20. I’m really good friends with a guy who just turned 30. We had something last year, he’s just about 10-11 years older than me. I love him very much 🙂

I do agree completely with this article, but only because it’s quite vague 😀 im not putting a negative connotation to the word ‘vague’, just saying. When two people venture into a relationship with a large age gap they have to have many things in mind, and in my opinion the priority is maturity which usually primarily comes from experience and personal growth. Compatibility seems like a given factor to be considered in any relationship if it is expected to flourish so i won’t elaborate on that. Age is not just a number. The human brain does physically and chemically go through certain stages of development up to a certain age, which is around eighteen. I know it sounds rigid, but it’s not that rigid, and it is the basis of many laws, for example (not speaking of laws on sexual relations between adults and minors, just general laws, such as voting, drinking, driving etc., in europe for example, to round it up). This of course is very general and does not necessarily determine the particular cognitive, emotional, or maturity-related development of any given individual, hense all these cases of couples with large age gaps flourishing. One thing is for sure: Usually, people of vastly different ages are at different points of self understanding, and usually have different wants and needs. This was more or less covered in the article above, just be wary of going head on into something that may not turn out as perfect as it seemed like it could. Just keep an open mind. Young ‘uns, don’t get head over heels ’cause you might fall on your face, old ‘uns, be gentle, and vice versa, ’cause it works both ways depending on the personalities and circumstances! You get my point 😉 I’m not being the pessimist here, just the realist 😉

For the record, I’m in love with this guy, and have been through quite a lot in my life, i know that if i were to try and have a steady relationship with him it would have good chances of being healthy, stable and awesome, and i would be ecstatic to have his kids in five years or so ;P

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Women…be wary. Especially the ones who aren’t women, I’m talking about the girls who are 21 years and under. A man liking you is like going after a freshly bloomed blade of grass. Your purity, and innocense. The way a child is suppose to be like. I don’t even know what the heck a 14 year old girl is doing with a 30 year old man? Pediphile? I am a 22 year old woman. I’ve had my fair share of attractions with men older than me when I was younger, but I always knew it was just that: an attraction. Nothing more.

When I was 18-19, I once dated a man who was 6 years older than me. He was domineering, controlling, and liked to think he was always right, maybe he got an ego boost out of this. Point being, he liked to make it out that I didn’t know what I was talking about, and that was when I knew it was time to say it was over, and I left. I wasn’t going to get treated like I had no voice, No.

Point being, there is a certain maturity which happens around 21 years old that is different than when you are 18 and younger. Know your limits and rights, be sure that what you are doing is the right thing to do.

If there is really love, than to heaven, I hope it is a healthy and good love built on mutual respect and honest policy.

I am 25 yrs. old and the guy i am seeing is 43. I still worry about the age difference because I was used to dating younger guys. I have to say that he treats me like a princess. He is so easy to talk to and i can tell hem anything and wont judge. We both have old souls but are young at heart. I did not plan on falling for him, but I think about him 24/7 and I think I am in love with him. I know he feels that for me too since he’s told me. When I tell him all the things my last boyfriend put me through, he cannot believe that someone would do that to me because I am such a good hearted person. I feel that he could possibly be the one that I could potentually marry. We talk about it alot and I know will be taken care of for the rest of my life. Older men know how to appreciate women. They also are not affraid to communicate unlike insecure younger men. The only concern I have is for when we get older, I know that he will not live as long as I do so it makes me sad, but at least I am being treated the way that I deserve.

As an older woman, “cougar” or however you wish to classify me, I can honestly say that I have always enjoyed dating younger men! And they have enjoyed dating me! If everyone is in agreement, what is the problem? Currently I am seeing someone who is 20 years my junior. This is the largest age disparity that I have been involved in, but so far its great. Yes, there are some issues, but not a lot! We have a lot of the same interests, he keeps me feeling young, he loves the attention, and adoration. I don’t look my age so its not a huge issue. We have not met each others family yet, although he has met both of my kids (near his age) and they like him and he likes them. I have met his friends, and they like me too. So…if you care about someone, why does the age matter?? I’m crazy about him!

I’m 18 years old, soon to be 19, and my man just turned 35. We’ve been together nearly two years and we clicked from the very beginning. It definitely hasn’t been easy for either of us, considering my mom is only 37 and my dad 43. For the entire first year of our relationship when I was only 17, my parents claimed to HATE him. They tried getting the law involved, restraining orders, threats, anything they could do to keep us apart, and for the first year we rarely got to see each other but we talked on the phone for hours a day and saw each other when it was possible. It was a very rough year, but we knew we were in love and weren’t about to let anyone stop us. So as soon as I turned 18, I moved in with him and we’ve been happier than ever. And now, almost a year later, my parents seem to love him. They respect us being together, and even trust us enough to babysit my brother and sister together, which by the way my siblings adore him! I was a little afraid at first to introduce him to the rest of my family, seeing as how my parents reacted, but now he’s met quite alot of my family and it’s been smooth sailing and everyone seems to love him. I plan on marrying this man, and my advice to anyone out there worried about other people’s views on an age difference in a relationship: it’s your life, you should know very well if you love this person and if you do, never let anyone else’s opinions destroy your relationship. This world needs all the love it can hold, and if you love someone, love them forever. Age is only a number. Love is everything.

i also dont think age matter. we have been together;for seventeen yersim 40 he is 61.im not getting the attion i need for a women things are realy slowing him down.we argue.a hoooolle lot in front of are kids we also get to the poin where we start hurting each other feelings by say things to each other about things we dont like about each other and realy it realy hurt when that was not sapose to be said and then its always im sorry

I am a 18 year old girl who recently met a 30 year old man on the internet, through a social networking site. We did not know each other’s age when we met, and our feelings for each other developed. When we both found out, it was a bit of a shock, but then I realised that he did not even look his age and he is everything I have ever wanted. He is younger than his actual age, and I am older than my age, so we match perfectly. He is very talented and working towards his career. He has never married or had children, and I guess some people start their life a little later than others. As for settling down, I feel I want to settle down too. I am only young, but I have had many experiences with men and want to have a serious relationship. The only barrier at the moment is the distance, but we have decided to start writing to each other. I can’t wait to meet him in person, and be with him. My parents were concerned, but I am willing to fight for this. Age definately is just a number.

Hi Im tera and Im 17 and I think that I might really like a 24 year old guy. Is that ok?

Hi
I have always had relationships with older men. When I was 18 I fell in love with a 40 year old. We had 2 superb years together. I then fell in love with a 34 year old when I was 20. I again had almost 3 superb years.
I never have looked at age because it simply is a number. Yes there are times when it can cause conflict but again I think how alike you are and whether you are on the same level.

I am bonding very well with a 51 year old at the moment and I’m 23 so who knows. He would be older than my parents by 5 or 6 years! That doesn’t bother me at all.

Just thought i’d add my experiences on here.

I met a man out about 10 months ago whilst having a few drinks with some friends, he was 39 and I am 19, he recently had his 40th birthday, and after 10 months of knowing him I finally realised I was head over heels for him, it was a good job the feelin was mutural! My parents know and are fine with it (although he’s 2 months older than my mum she said she doesn’t mind as long as I’m happy) he also knows how to treat me really well. My ex-boyfriend was 22, and completely obsessed by me, wouldn’t let me go anywhere without him, I had to ask his permission before I went out, and he made me lose contact with all my male friends. The guy I’m seeing now is definantley a keeper, he respects me and makes me feel like I’m the only woman in the world. Anyone that has a problem with it is just jealous.

It’s wonderful to hear all of these stories. I am 20 and have been with my boyfriend of 36 years for a little over 2 years now. He was completely unexpected, and it’s definitely been an adventure with him. I never thought we would have such a connection and enjoy many of the same things. Never have I been treated as well as he treats me. Being with an established, mature, and intelligent man is quite amazing. I feel on top of the world knowing he is in my life, and I appreciate him as a whole. Age will never matter in my book. To all of the people who posted about their significant other, I wish you many years of happiness!

I am a 58 year old man, in an exclusive relationship with a 22 year old worman. This gap is something I used to consider far beyond acceptable. We met online – she approached me – and initially I did have some of the stereotypical reactions – oh, she’s in it for $ (mainly). But the more we talked on the phone, the more I believed our attraction was more genuine. So, I decided to go with it. It’s been incredibly great. I look/act/feel way younger than my age. She is a perfect combination of older-than-her age maturity and impulsive immaturity. Sure there are some issues with her being less independent than she should be, and she is working on that, but we’ve decided to go ahead with it. I’ve talked with my oldest kids about it and they are OK, but i still haven’t been able to talk to my youngest daughter (2 years older than my gf). The more time goes by, the less concerned I am about anyone’s reaction. If I sound conflicted it is true I am, but that stems from other issues, and has nothing to do with the age gap. Someone else mentioned sexual compatibility. And I can tell you, it is so nice to find someone who can keep up with me.

I guess I’m a serial grave robber. I am 20 and recently got out of a relationship w/ a 47 year old man, we were together for 2 years- and I thought it was the age difference that drove us apart. However now I am involved with a 41 (not on purpose- I thought he was 28) and I see that the most important thing is lifestyle. My last guy went to work, came home, and watched television- not the life for me. This one is active, fun, and always on the go- and all the social fears concerning age that plagued me before are absolutely nonexistent now. Age is a factor, and I’m not going to lie to myself about that, but if it’s right then I’m not going to worry about what other people think, I’m not going to dread the future- that’s not what comes naturally now.

Im 27 years old and my boyfrien is 46 years old. We have a 3 year relationship i love him so much but i’m embarrased to bring him home and take him out with my friends. He has being really patient with me but i don’t know what to do. I love him and i dont want to lose him but i don’t want to give my family a hard time and i care a lot what people thinks. I never in my life have had a long beautiful relationship. Sometimes i feel to let him go but all the things that he have done for me make go back to him. I know i never ever going to find someone like him that loves me and treats me like a queen. I just need time to let know my family.

I’m 15, & My boyfriend is 20. And, this is the best relationship ever. We are very careful and promised to each other that we wouldn’t have sex until I’m 18. & He’s the most sweetest, Caring, Protective guy ever. He respects me, He is an overall amazing guy.

5 years isn’t that much of a age difference. (:
Just be careful with who you pick. :3
My guy just happened to be the most perfect boyfriend ever, He risks everyday going to jail just to be with me. He tells people in public. He’s respectful. I was his first girlfriend, Kiss, and the first girl he gave a ring(promise ring) too, Best guy ever. (:

I am near 27 years old and been in love with a girl who’s 10 younger than me…she moved to Tennessee and is coming back over the summer. We want to get together, but her dad doesn’t like the idea of her dating someone 10 years older than her. But in the state that I live in (that she’s moving back to) laws say “that 16 and over have rights of their own as to dating”….on top of that her dad’s going back to Tennessee shortly after bringing her back. We’ve always seen age as nothing more than a number….and no matter what she wants to be with me. . . .she’s just worried about her dad getting me in trouble. I don’t honestly see how he can as long as there’s “no sex involved” while we’re dating.

I think I win the age difference game. I just turned 60 and my girl freind ( used to work for me ) is no 22, 38 years difference. I am also a grand parent and have 3 children oldest being 35. I have three grand children. I must say we are both in love and have so many simlar interest. I must say we are both aware of our age difference and do talk about 10 and 20 years down the road. Her broken family accepts me fine. I am from a more traditional family that doesn’t accept at all. I divorced my wife of 37 years for her. Her freinds don’t accept us and thinks she is using me. Age is a number and at times it is not. All I know I’ve never been happier. We do most every thing together, camping, traveling, enjoying nature together outside of the social enviorment. I find at times the maturity level does make a difference. We work at our relationship constantly, but I think thats what makes it work. We have been living together for 2 years. I look much younger that my age. I laugh when we are in public together and tell her people just think your my daughter. I feel young again and have never been happier. I live for today. Tomorrow may be different and I am prepared if that happens too.

I loved reading the stories above, and would love to know what everyone thinks about my situation? I’m a female who has just turned 19, and like a guy who is soon to be 17. I know he’s younger, but is this acceptable for his age?

i fell the same way im 16 my bf is 21 but we are in love so age is just a number

Hey everyone.
Straight to the point I am dating a 30year old woman and I am 19 years old I really don’t want a relationship because I’m in college and I’m trying to focus on my work, but when i’m with her its like magic. I do think about her age difference. but I really don’t care she always says im going to leave her for a younger woman. What Should I Do? end it now or just wait till summer ends.? plus I was in a 1year relationship with my ex and after that I told myself I wouldn’t get into a relationship anymore for awhile until I finish all my college work because to me really having a girlfriend is a distraction and takes away from your time to put it together with somebody else. any advice helps.

Its really nice to read of other people in similar situations and everything that works, or doesn’t work, for them in their relationship with a much older or younger partner. I am a 46 yr old male and have been in a relationship with a 20 yr old young woman for just over two years – she is the absolute perfect match for me and, according to her unless she’s just being nice, I for her. I could not be happier nor could she…our soul-ages are spot on.
Yes, we have our challenges but so does everyone, age-spread or not. The heart knows no reasons…only that it loves.

Hey. I’m 26 and my new man is 43, just couple of years younger than my mother. I know she will not approve but I think we can really be happy together. We have worked together for about 3 years and we spent time together about 2 years ago. t was brief and didn’t get serious for me due to our age difference amongst other things. He’s recently let me in on the feelings he had for me back then and I haven’t been able to get him off of my mind. We’re going to give it a go. I’m really excited about what’s to come and my family will just have to accept that I’m in it to make me happy not them.

I was with someone for 2.5 years. He was 24 years older than I. We got together when I was 17. I thought he was someone completely different – he had a work persona that was completely fake.

Dispite being so much older, I felt that his maturity level was that of an 8-year-old. He refused to have kids after 50, and I refused to be stopped at 26. He liked booze and bachelor life, I didn’t like either. After fighting for over a year, I walked away because that wasn’t what I wanted in my life. And, sadly, he still asks me to come back.

Yes, age is just a number… but maturity is very real, and should be cafefully considered.

my sister used to work for this family that has a son who is mentally challenged. the mother and father ended up getting a divorce a year and a half ago. we have known this family for about 7 years and have remained close to the father of this boy. he also has a daughter whom we adore. the situation at hand is the last few months i have fallen for this man. he is 43 and i will be 23 this month. we have been spending a lot of time together and it is wonderful, i believe the feeling is mutual between us. i decided i couldn’t keep it from my parents and told them the other day. my father will not allow me to see him anymore. i can’t go against him because he will beat the living hell out of this guy…. i need help. i don’t know what to do, why should i not be able to make my own choice?

I’m about to turn 19, and my boyfriend recently turned 31. I see age as a number but my parents see it as a huge thing and I have been forced to lie to them saying that we’re just friends now because of everything. I’m not even allowed to go see him anymore unless I want to be kicked out.

Once they said age was just a number but they changed their minds.

Im 15, and the guy♥ i am falling for is twenty:/ He is my neighbor, and we talk all the time, his sister is my bestfran, but she knows i kinda like him, but i dont want ha to feel im useing ha to get to him, cuhz i love ha more than him, well…i want him to know i like him but idk…

hello my name is archie and i am 75 and my girlfriend just turned 18. i love her very much and i do believe that age is just a number when it comes to love. she has lost her friends for me and i know she sits on her own at college because everyone thinks she is a freak.But our relationship is booming 🙂