Real Sex Education Facts

Mary Ellen:

If a guy masturbates too often, he will suffer the consequences. Do the same consequences apply if a guy has sex too often? If not, why does forgetfulness and such happen only during masturbation, but not from sexual intercourse?

Answer:

Mary Ellen, Many men who use repeated masturbation in order to achieve satisfaction also seek out drugs that are supposed to be sex stimulants. Some recreational drugs, namely alcohol and marijuana are supposed to be drugs that can help a man to enhance his sexual performance. A man who takes the time to masturbate on a regular basis might also make a point of using supposedly sex-enhancing drugs.

If a man repeatedly takes-in or uses sex-enhancing drugs, and if he then enjoys masturbation look what happens. He has removed a fair amount of the liquid in his body. That will lead to a concentration of the drug(s) in his body. Such a concentration could well cause the same man to suffer unwanted health effects, such as forgetfulness.

A man who masturbates tends to be alone on a regular basis. Being alone, he has more chances to use sex-enhancing drugs. A man who has frequent sex is less often alone. He therefore has fewer opportunities to engage in drug use.

Drug use, rather than masturbation, can have important health effects. At times repeated sex can have an effect. There are cases of sex addiction, but that will be covered more fully in the response to a later question.

Master Bates:

Ok I’ve played the skin flute now for 27 years at least once a day. I’ve had problems with concentration as long as I can remember and was diagnosed long ago with ADD. Within the last decade I’ve become apathetic and generally quite depressed for the following reasons: weight gain, high cholesterol, sleep apnea, and a problem with thinning and graying hair. I’ve just turned 40 and feel the severe bite of a midlife crisis. Is it too late for me or can I nip this one in the bud with a lifestyle change?

Answer:

Master Bates, A Lifestyle change could not replace your lost hair or add color to your graying hair, but a lifestyle change could help you to reverse weight gain and fight high cholesterol. The best changes would focus on your diet and your need for exercise.

Exercise improves digestion. A faster digestive system speeds the elimination of unwanted food substances. If a man eats plenty of fiber and also engages in exercise, he will eliminate a large part of the excess fat in his diet. That can help him to control the level of his cholesterol.

A man who takes the time to exercise is apt to sleep better at night. His body has developed the ability to take-in plenty of oxygen. He is not about to suffer sleep apnea. Because he sleeps better, such a man is sure to become less apathetic.

As indicated above, any exercise program should be supplemented with a good diet. Any good diet should have plenty of fiber. It should be low in fats and sugars. If a man likes fruit, he should be encouraged to substitute fruit for a dessert. If he likes salads, then he must find a way to savor the taste of a low-calorie salad dressing.

Steven Graham:

i’m a teenager and has been masturbing for the past few years, my testicles seemed to be much smaller than the others, is this due to over-masturbation and will it still grow to the average size?

Answer:

Steven, The fact that one of your testicles has grown more than the other indicates an imbalance within your system. The chemical messengers, hormones, that signal growth of the testicles seem directed to only one of your two testicles. What could cause that to occur?

Because hormones are proteins their production depends on the ability of the body to make proteins. A malnourished body can not make an adequate amount of proteins. Still, it would seem that any failure to supply your hormone producing cells with sufficient nutrients would not cause the growth of only a single testicle.

What then could cause one testicle to grow properly, while the second testicle stayed in an immature state? It could possibly be due to over-masturbation. That can put a strain on the nerves. Strained nerves can slow the body’s ability to deliver the proper hormonal response. Such a strain does not involve an unchangeable condition.

Damage to strained nerves can be corrected when the patient with the strained nerves finds satisfaction in less frequent use of masturbation. How infrequent should masturbation be in order to bring the male body in balance? Doctors recommend a frequency of three times per week.

If a different masturbation schedule fails to create a change in the uneven growth of your testicles, then you should see a doctor. You could have an unseen condition, something that has kept your body’s hormones from traveling to all of the spots where they are needed.

Joe Thompson:

If I have masturbated everyday for the past 8 years, does it mean that I am suxually weak now and can’t have good sexual relationship with my partner anymore. It started from the porno site and then became an addiction. But I have quit for the past few months now.

Answer

Joe, you have already taken the first step along the road away from sexual addiction. Professional therapy for an addiction to sex begins with complete abstinence from sex for a period of one month. That abstinence halts the strong drive for repeated sexual activity. You have apparently halted that drive, one that you have previously experienced.

Realize that you are by no means alone. Others have at one time felt driven to engage in repeated sex. They like you found needed satisfaction by enjoying sex on a daily basis. Such individuals have now sought to help others who want to end their addiction to sex. They have formed organizations such as Sexaholics Anonymous and Sexual Addicts Anonymous.

You might want to seek out an organization that is like one of those mentioned above. If you do not feel comfortable becoming part of an organization, then you will need to develop alternative ways to gain the sort of satisfaction that you once obtained from repeated sex.

You must look closely at what most interests you, beyond possible erotic materials. If you do not have an alternative interest, then try to develop one. An addiction of any sort involves replacement of one substance, or one desire, with an alternative substance or desire.

Lucas Arangaron:

Does masturbation effect penis size or testicle sizes? Are their any physical harms of masturbating. What are some good ways to stop masturbation addictions. (I think i have a minor addiction I have to masturbate once for about 10 minutes) And also I am about 13-16 dont want to tell my exact age

Answer

Lucas, A healthy amount of masturbation does not have any ill effects on the body. Yet you are masturbating much too often. Doctors recommend that men masturbate no more than 3 times per week.

Doctors have not suggested that excessive masturbation could change the size of a man’s penis or testicle. Doctors have indicated that a man who spends too much time masturbating could have problems with memory or concentration.

Perhaps you are curious to know how excessive masturbation could affect your concentration or memory. You masturbate in order to achieve a particular experience. That experience requires nervous stimulation. It requires the release by your nerves of acetylcholine.

The body can not devote all of its energy to the production of acetylcholine. When you masturbate more than 3 times per week, the body can not replace all of the lost acetylcholine. That same chemical, acetylcholine, stimulates the nerves that fire-up memory cells. It allows the brain cells to focus and to concentrate on a single issue.

Try to find other ways to keep yourself busy. Rest your brain, and do not worry about the size of your penis.

Mlkx:

How do woman masturbate? men stroke or rub the penis, but what do woman do?

Answer:

Mlkx, Women masturbate by rubbing the surface of their vagina. Research has shown that there is a nerve running from the vaginal area to the female brain. When the surface of the vagina experiences a rubbing action, it sends signals to the brain. The first signals allow a woman to enter the stage of excitement.

If the vagina continues to be the recipient of a rubbing action, it continues to send the brain many signals. Eventually the masturbating woman moves from the stage of excitement to the plateau stage. During this stage, the outer one third of the vagina enlarges.

Continued masturbation can cause a woman to pass from the plateau stage to actual orgasm. Women and men undergo much the same experience during orgasm. It causes the contraction of the pelvic muscles. The number of those attractions could be as little as 3 or as many as 12. Those contractions are separated by about four-fifths of a second, and each contraction normally lasts for about 60 seconds.

Women, unlike men, do not provide unquestionable physical evidence of orgasm. The achievement of orgasm by a woman can be measured by having the masturbating woman wear electrodes attached to an EEG machine.

George:

Does over-masturbation lead to larger hips and smaller penis size?

Answer:

George, Over masturbation will not lead to larger hips and a smaller penis size. It is quite a natural expression of males from those reaching puberty to much older. Sometimes, it is used to decrease boredom or may help with an inactive sex life. It can also help with taking the edge ff of the many stresses in your life because after orgasm, the euphoria felt is quite relaxing. Only if the habit interferes with your functioning everyday does it present a problem. Otherwise, it is quite healthy and normal. The actual function of masturbation is to get the old sperm out so a place can be made or the new ones.

Sometimes your friends are trying to help, but they are not always right. If you are in doubt, please see a health professional. They can help you decide if what you are doing is normal or abnormal. Do not be embarrassed to ask. The doctor has dealt with this before and will know how to help you. He can tell you the best way to pursue any treatment that may be needed. Most often, it is just a guy being a guy. That can be a pleasurable thing at times.

JAMES MORGAN:

if a guy starts masturbating frequently, well almost every day before he reaches his puberty, will that affect its testicle growth and production of testosterone?

Answer:

James Morgan, Testosterone and testicle growth are not affected by masturbating. Whenever you hit puberty, you will have a wide flush of hormones that will take over and start to develop all your sex organs. These will determine the size of things and how much testosterone is needed in your system to complete the process. As you go through puberty, you will notice all of this taking place. It usually happens around age thirteen in most males, maybe twelve. This is all a natural part of growing up and nothing to over obsess about. It is quite common to have questions about the rapid changes taking place in your body. Most teenagers have some really off the wall questions, but it depends on what is happening with you. Everyone is different. You may develop faster or slower than your next door neighbor. It really sucks if he is way ahead of you, but I promise one day you will catch up and be on even ground.

If you have more serious questions, see a health professional. There is no need to be embarrassed as the see this stuff all the time. The doctor can also put your mind at rest and calm any fears you may have.

Bryson

This is BS. I have been jerking it regularily since before i could even ejaculate, and i have had no noticable side effects from this constant self ‘abuse’
The whole deal with premature ejaculation as a result of over masturbating is because of the simple reason that most people, when jacking off, will try to get it done quickly so it doesnt take too much time or so that theres less chance of someone walking in. This is just training yourself to come early, which leads to premature ejaculation. just try and delay the orgasm, and you can find that masturbating will be beneficial to your stamina in the sack! I also don’t fully believe the whole neurotransmitter deficiency side effect yet, as this is the first respectable looking site that i’ve seen mention it. all the other sites were trying to sell herbal medication or some crap, so i find it hard to trust them. until i come across a scientific article with actual hard evidence of the biochemical harm of masturbating i will continue to believe this nonsense. Does anyone out there (preferably a doctor or someone who actually knows about this type of stuff) have a good scientific reason why over masturbation leads to depleted neurotransmitters? that would be much appreciated. thanks.

Answer:

Bryson, Unfortunately in all my research at some reputable medical sites, I have not been able to find anything concerning depleted neurotransmitters and frequency of masturbation. They all say the same thin that I do. It is a normal healthy expression of puberty and can help to decrease boredom. I don’t know of any herbs that really help, these sites may be just trying to sell you something. You must be leery of them because the herbs may not be good for you or they may cause a reaction that the manufacturers didn’t know about. Be very careful in researching on the Internet. Go to medical sites and look up your information. Better yet, talk with your family doctor and get their opinion. This can be embarrassing stuff to talk about, but the doctor has heard it before and will know what to suggest or where information can be found for certain question.

For premature ejaculators, it can be tough. Some men have gotten older and just can’t control it. Others have taught themselves to get it over wit quickly, therefore blowing it when they are with their partner. There is help for this condition as well. Again, see your family doctor for his recommendation. Sometimes, it can be a set of exercises. Sometimes it is a medicine. Take care to find out today.

Nathan:

I am 27 year old male . I have been masturbating for the last 15 years averaging 4 times a day .For the last 6 years i have been suffering from headaches .fatigue n all i feel weak all the times specially in legs ..i used to masturbate even when my penis was not erect .Can you please suggest that how can i gain my sexual power back ?

Answer:

Nathan, First of all, I would say you need to see a doctor for your medical problems mentioned. The headaches, fatigue, etc could be stemming from something else. Make sure you are quite healthy before you think it is from over masturbating. It could have a very simple solution. You never know. Masturbation is quite normal for men of all ages. It does help to flush out toxins and old sperm as well as releasing endorphins which help control pain and give you that euphoric feeling afterward.

As far as getting your sexual power back, find a partner and have a meaningful relationship. You may find it more satisfying than just masturbation. It may also help you to stop masturbating four times a day and hold off until you can get the real thing. Some guys are more happy with themselves. Only you know the answer to that question.

Get medical help if it is needed. A doctor will listen and make recommendations as to what you should do and how to handle the problem. It may be a simple medicine to use or you may have a series of task to do. Whatever the situation, a remedy can be found. You just have to ask.

Mike

hi there my name is mike.
i have just turned 16 in april this year.
i am just a bit confused about things.
i have recently started puberty
i have a small amount of hair around my penis but none under my arms or on my legs yet.
i measured my penis earlier and it is 9cm erect. is this on due course to become bigger?
also what is a suitable length of penis for sex? (as i am afriad that mine will hardly be able to fit in a vagina) how long in months do you recon it will take to reach this length?

p.s also i masturbate around 5 times a week is this too much? does it delay the process and speed of puberty?

Answer:

Mike, If you are just starting puberty, you have no need to worry about what size your penis is. Nine centimeters is fine for now. And yes, it will grow some more, but that will take time until you are past puberty at around eighteen or nineteen. The hormones will still be there, but they will finally start to die down. An average length is between fifteen and twenty centimeters. Some grow slowly and some grow rapid, unfortunately, you will have to wait until you get there to find out. As for sex, don’t worry about it until you are mature enough to handle it. You will be mature enough at nineteen or twenty. By then, everything will be almost finished and you will be ready to take on the world. I know it doesn’t seem that way now, but have patience and see what unfolds.

Hair growth is quite normal too. You will find it soon starting to grow in other area of your body as well. It is very normal and nothing to be scared or ashamed of. The only down side is sometimes it does take its own sweet time according to your biological clock.

Masturbation is a healthy normal part of growing up and puberty. Five times a week is not over abundant. You don’t need to worry about it unless it is wrecking your every day life.

If you have other questions, speak to your family doctor, He can help you with these kinds of things and tell you what is normal and what is not.

Don

In the second paragraph there is reference to the desirability of men learning how to have an orgasm without ejaculating. How can this be done?
In the third paragraph you list a number of problems which can occur in men who over-masturbate. Is there a well researched source for this information?
Nowhere in this site do you identify yourself and give your credentials. Who are you and what are your affiliations? Whoever you are you have a darned good site.

Don, By flexing the pubococcygeal muscle during sex, you can prevent any semen from being released. It is kind of like the Kegel muscle in women. It is the muscle you use to stop urination. If you can learn to control this muscle, it can strengthen over time and give you an enjoyable experience without the ejaculation. However, his is not a sure fire method of birth control, so make sure you are both protected.

There is a medical condition called retrograde ejaculation. This means the semen is back flowing to the bladder. This is also know as dry orgasm. It is common in men with Diabetes.

Over masturbation is only a problem if it interrupts your daily life. Then you ma need to see a health care professional for help. If you have concerns, don’t hesitate to see your family doctor. He can help you decide what treatments are best for you, or if your condition warrants treatment. It is a healthy expression of most males from those starting puberty to much older.

We are glad you like the site, we are just someone who tries to help others find the truth to their questions, and not try to advertise the latest product you need to buy for a non-existent problem. We try to give good advice and help.

FG

I was wondering if Masturbation has an effect on premature ejactualation. I am finding it hard to have sex with my partner for the amount of time I want. I always find myself losing’s tough subject for me, and it really poses a negative affect on my sex life. My question is, is this because of masturbation? I usually do it two times a week max which I think is ‘normal’. If I stopped masturbating would I be able to hold it longer in bed? Is there anything I could do to cure this? Thanks.

Answer:

FG, Masturbation does has not been shown to have an effect on ejaculation, when it is done no more than 3 times a week. There are a number of different techniques that you might want to try, if you are having trouble with premature ejaculation.

Some men find that they have better control if they can relax during intercourse. Some men find it better to remain on the bottom, with their wife or partner on top. Other men try communicating with their sexual partner, indicating when to move and when to cease movement.

Some men have better luck with greater concentration, rather than increased relaxation. For some men, a premature ejaculation can be avoided by paying closer attention to their passage through levels of sexual response. Such men must avoid various distractions, or pressure to ignore their movement through the various stages of the sex cycle.

A third technique is called ‘stop-start.’ Men who use that technique note the changes that indicate the approach of ejaculation. They then stop their movements before that ejaculation takes place. The man then allows his state of arousal to diminish slightly. He can then feel ready to proceed with intercourse, confident that he should not have a premature ejaculation.

Sandy

im 19 years old since last 7-8 years im masturbating 5-6 times daily i really got addicted to it so plz tel me wht problems i can face and how can i overcome those problems medically or any other way please help i am worried

Answer:

Sandy, Probably the best way to find out if you are addicted is to try to go for thirty days without masturbating. If you can’t, you are probably addicted. If it is interrupting your daily life, then you probably have a problem. You will need to see your health care professional or family doctor for options about treatments and testing for your concerns. There are many different things you can do and there are many different treatments for sexual related problems. Take your concerns to your doctor and explain them honestly and completely. It may be embarrassing, but do not worry about it. The doctor has heard this type of thing before and knows what needs to be done for your particular problem. So go ask your questions, and see if you need to be followed for a while.

Masturbation is a healthy normal activity otherwise. You didn’t mention if you were male or female. Females are more likely to not masturbate as much as males. They cannot overdo it unless it interrupts their lives. Some people can be selfish and this is a cause of masturbation versus having sex. You only have to satisfy yourself. And that takes a lot of the pressure and stress off. You don’t have to worry with it otherwise.

Ben Franklin

What if you masturbate three times an hour?

Answer:

Ben Franklin -If you can masturbate three times in an hour, I would say you are a pretty young fellow. Most times, this type of thing starts at puberty and goes until you are much older. It is sometimes a teenager’s way to decrease boredom. But it is a natural healthy expression to puberty and growing up. It is not a problem unless it affects your daily living. Then you may need to see someone about it.

Teenagers usually have questions about what is to come and that is normal as well. There are so many changes going on during puberty and sometimes they don’t know which end is up. They can be cross one day and happy the next. This is normal too.

If you are in doubt about anything, please see your family doctor or talk to your parents. They went through the same things you are going through now. I know that is hard to believe, but they did. They will also be able to put your fears to rest. Friends mean well, but oftentimes they don’t have the correct information. Make sure you talk to a reliable source before making a decision. Most importantly, make sure you are comfortable with who you are talking to.

Ankit

hi i’m 19 and have been masturbating for past 5-6 yrs for 3-4 times a week and it seems puberty came early for me. is it because of the masturbating? now i’m facing some problems like frequent pimples,skin dryness,hair-loss, and recently i found a grey hair,but i don’t think i’m going bald, exhaustion, sweating only after a short walk and little work.

i really want to know is this related to the masturbation and if so then would stopping it help now or is it too late.

please give me some advice.

Answer:

Ankit – At nineteen, you should be well through the changes of puberty. The acne, skin dryness, and gray hair may be part of that change. There is something called premature graying. Some teenagers have this. They start go gray at 15. So no need to worry about that. The acne and dry skin may be because of the hormones still dumping in your system. It is quite normal for some of the symptoms you talk about to take place now.

Masturbation does not cause these types of problems. Only if it interrupts your daily life will it be a problem. But otherwise, it is a healthy expression of puberty taking its toll. You should be nearing the end of the raging hormone thing and be back to normal soon. Then you will take a look back and laugh at everything you went through with yourself and anybody else.

If you are in doubt or have more pressing concerns, see your family doctor. He can help you decide what is part of puberty and what is abnormal. If you need any medicines or any treatments, please don’t hesitate to follow his advice. He is there to help and can be a trusted member of your team.

Max

I am a male 17 years old. How can i achieve orgasm without ejaculating?? Please tell me a way.

Answer:

Max – Yes, you can achieve orgasm without ejaculating. You must learn to gain control of the pubococcygeal muscle in your pelvis. This muscle is similar to the Kegel in females. It is the muscle used to stop urination. So while you are going to the bathroom one day, practice stopping and starting your urine flow. Do not keep this up every time you go to the bathroom as it will cause your bladder to not fully empty and the urine can stagnate and cause an infection. But learn what the muscle feels like and how you are supposed to do it. Practice each day and as the muscle gets stronger, you should be able to hold back the ejaculate. It does take some time to build up the muscle. You must also flex it before you know you are getting ready to ejaculate. Afterwards, it will not work. Also, another important tidbit of information, this is not a birth control practice and should not be used as such. Please use other methods of protection to eliminate chance of pregnancy.

There is also another problem called Dry Orgasm. This is when the semen backs up into the bladder and can cause an infection. After so many times of not ejaculating, this may cause a problem. If you have concerns, see your health care provider.

Jake

Well…I’m almost 16 and puberty has hit me hard. I don’t know what to do. I’m masterbating 6 to 10 times a day and in as little as 3 or 4 hours! Is there something wrong with me? I’m kindda’ worried because I’ve noticed that I sweat alot real easily. I’ll lift like 3 or 4 heavey boxes and I’ll be sweating as if I just sprinted 4 miles in the sun. I also feel kindda tired, like sleepy and phatigue tired. But I’ve been working alot lately. But here’s what realy confuses me…my penis and testicles arent soar or tired or anything. And 5 minutes after I have anorgasm…I find myself aroused again and wanting more! Nothing hurts, I’ve no grey hair, just a little sleepy and/or physicaly tired, but again, i’ve been heavey lifting at work for the past mounth.

Is it the hard job or is it constintly masterbating that’s making me tired? And is there something wrong with me for materbating 10 times in 3-4 hours? My genitals don’t hurt at all and theres no physical signs of stress…can someone hep me please…having this always on my chest is bothering me…

Answer:

Jake – Puberty in males is always a hard road to travel. Not only do you have loads of hormones racing through your body, but your sweat glands are also developing. Tis ma be the reason for your sweating a lot now as opposed to when you were younger. Masturbation in your age group is quite normal and is quite healthy. It is a way to decrease boredom and as they say try out the equipment and see how it works. A healthy male may masturbate many times a day. Unless it is affecting your daily life or lifestyle, there shouldn’t be a problem.

The fatigue may be something coming from your job or you may have another health issue involved. The only way to know for sure is to have a complete physical checkup. It may not be painful for you to masturbate so many times a day. Some guys are more sensitive than others. It just depends on what your body can handle. Everyone is different. Everyone is one a different time clock as well. You may develop slower or faster than the next guy. Sometimes this is hard to understand, but once puberty is over, you will all be back on the same footing. It will be back to a more normal time.

Vish

Hiii, i m 23. i masturbate around 3-4 times a week. does it affect my health? does it reduce my stamina and my power?? wat r the side effects i cud face?
hw often should i masturbate

Vish, Masturbation at twenty three is quite normal. If you are not in a serious relationship, it can help with depression and stress. It can also help to decrease boredom. Unless it interferes with your daily living, it is not a problem. It does not affect your health and may actually help to increase your stamina. Masturbation is also said to decrease the development of prostate cancer and help with cardiovascular output. It is also said to help with pain because after orgasm, the endorphins are released and you are pain free for a little while. This is due to the euphoric sensation after orgasm.

There is no set number for the number of times you should masturbate. As I said, if it is not causing problems with your daily life, then don’t worry too much. If you have other questions or cncerns, see your family doctor or a health care provider to get more information. They can help you decide what is normal for you and what is not. They may be able to head off problems before they get started as well. So see your doctor today and have a complete physical. Catch up on anything concerns you have and how you can handle them.

Last Modified : July 20th, 2007
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